What to consider when picking your sperm donor
In this previous post, Customer Service consultant at Cryos, Louise Bach Hansen, shared some tips on the choice of picking a sperm donor with respectively a basic and an extended profile. Further, she wrote about the considerations regarding the level of resemblance between mother and donor child.
In this post, Louise provides more tips on things to consider when picking a sperm donor for your future child or children.
How important is the donor’s medical history when picking a sperm donor?
All sperm donors at Cryos are selected according to comprehensive quality assurance and operating procedures for donor screening. Only a small percentage of the men who apply to become donors gets through the needle’s eye. This means that people with risk behaviours or disease symptoms are rejected. Despite this intensive screening, of course, the risk of having a child with a medical condition cannot be completely eliminated as all people have some form of “imbalances”.
Do you want to know as much as possible about the medical history of the donor, you should go for a donor with an extended profile. In the extended profiles, you get extended information about the donor’s health, and also about the health of the donor’s parents, siblings and grandparents.
What information should your child be able to get about the donor?
One of the important things to consider when choosing a sperm donor is whether the donor should be anonymous or non-anonymous (sometimes also referred to having an ‘open ID’). If they are anonymous, neither you nor your child can get access to the identity of the donor.
For some people, it’s particularly important to know their biological origin and there is a possibility that a donor child with an anonymous donor gets identity issues at some point. Typically, that would occur when the child is in its teens or in early adulthood. For others, the thought of their biological origin is not an issue and will not give the child any challenges.
Our experience tells us, that especially single woman and lesbian couples often have preferences for non-anonymous sperm donors, while heterosexual couples seem to prefer anonymous. But of course, it’s not always like that and the choice is very personal and complex.
If you choose a non-anonymous donor, the child (but not you) can, after his or her 18th birthday, contact the sperm bank and get access to information about the donor. Ask at the sperm bank what specific information they can hand over to the child when he/she turns 18 years old.
Should your donor be exclusive?
For some people, the thought of having the exclusive right to use a donor and thus be the only one who can have a child with the donor, means a great deal.
If you want to go for an exclusive donor, you can see in the donor database on which donors’ sperm have not yet been sold or reserved. If a donor is marked with a star icon, it is possible to buy the exclusive right to use the donor’s sperm.
You can get an exclusive donor by purchasing all the available sperm from the donor and “buy him out”. Obviously, it’s more expensive to get an exclusive donor for your upcoming child or children, but if it’s important to you, it’s definitely an option worth considering.